Tag: self-improvement

Finding Balance: My Journey to Mental Wellness

“Your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” – Carl Jung

As we moved into 2025, I took a much-needed mental health break from blogging. I focused my energy instead on personal reflection and growth. Coming off a difficult injury recovery, I knew that I wasn’t in a good place and needed that time. I had a micro tear in the arch of my foot, which was not responding to PT. Could it be that I was not going to bounce back this time? Was this part of the aging process? Would I no longer be able to engage in the activities I loved? Would I live in constant pain?

Choosing to step away and focus on my wellness was a hard, but necessary decision. I needed to put myself first and ensure that I didn’t give up on the journey to reclaim my health. I had done that when I gave up running, after my last marathon. This led me to the unhealthiest point in my life – overweight, stressed and depressed.

Healing Plan

In January 2025, I went to my doctor frustrated and in tears. I told him candidly that I needed to find something to help me heal this foot. I told him how hard it was not to be able to engage in the activities I loved. I expressed clearly that it was affecting my mental wellness. I needed a plan of action to heal my foot, because I still had pain with gentle walking.

We discussed alternative treatments that I could try and I settled on dry needling and electric stimulation. By February, after painful dry needling, I was able to walk without a limp. The PT gave me the green light to try gentle yoga classes and see how the foot felt. I then added a beginner Barre class, which offered great stretching of the foot. By late February, I walked back on the pickleball court for the first time in months.

Self-Reflection

During the months I was struggling, I engaged in a lot of self-reflection and journaling. Self-reflection can help you get unstuck by giving you a clearer understanding of what’s holding you back. By examining your thoughts and feelings, you can identify patterns or fears that are keeping you from moving forward. It helps you recognize your strengths and areas where you might need improvement. By understanding these aspects, you can set realistic goals and take action to achieve them.

Reflecting on my history, I realized that my identity was strongly tied to my ability to engage in sports. When that was removed, I tended to give up on living a healthy lifestyle. It also affected my mental wellness and confidence. Therefore, my motivation was coming from external sources, not intrinsic sources.

I believed my pursuit of wellness was driven by my commitment to health, but discovered it was fueled by my need to compete. Therefore, rooted under all that was my need to be valued. This understanding has helped me set healthier sports goals as I move forward. It’s definitely a work in progress, but I am making better choices when planning my fitness goals these days.

Begin Your Self-Reflection Journey

As in my case, starting a self-reflection journey can be transformative. Here are three tools that helped me, and can help you, to get started on your journey.

1. Set Aside Regular Time: Dedicate a specific time each day or week for self-reflection. Choose a quiet place where you won’t be interrupted, allowing yourself the space to think clearly and deeply about your experiences and feelings.

This was hard for me, but early morning seems to work best. I need to have the house alone to truly have space to self-reflect without distraction.

2. Start a Reflection Journal: Write down your thoughts, experiences, and emotions in a journal. Reflect on what happened, how you felt, and what you learned from your experiences. This process not only helps in organizing your thoughts but also provides a reference for observing patterns over time.

I purchased journals in bulk to always have on hand. I used a separate journal for self-reflection.

3. Ask Yourself Reflective Questions: Use guiding questions to delve deeper into your thoughts and actions. Questions like “What did I learn today?”, “What am I grateful for?”, or “What could I have done differently?” can help you explore different aspects of your experiences and gain new insights.

In my case, I asked, “When have I felt like this before?”, “What could I have done differently?”.

Reflections on My Journey to Heal

Reflecting on my journey through injury and self-discovery, I’ve come to appreciate the impact of self-reflection on my personal growth. By taking a step back, I’ve set myself on a path toward a more balanced and fulfilling lifestyle. While the journey is ongoing, I am empowered by the self-awareness I’ve gained, which will guide my wellness journey.

Whether you’re facing similar challenges, or starting self-reflection, every step moves you toward a healthier self. Please share your experiences in the comment section to inspire and connect with us all. As always, feel free to reach out to me directly at laurakump@reclaiminghealth.blog.

Transforming Setbacks into Strength: My Weight Loss Story

“Strength doesn’t come from what you can do. It comes from overcoming the things you once thought you couldn’t”. – Rikki Rogers

When you are on a weight loss journey, the path is often littered with obstacles, and injuries can feel like major setbacks. I know this first hand, as I’ve had major injuries throughout my journey. I’ve suffered three (3) femoral stress fractures and one (1) peroneal tendon repair surgery during my time as a long distance runner. These repeated injuries were behind my decision to step away from running and contributed to my emotional struggles and significant weight gain. I’ve learned the hard way, that the way you approach these challenges can make all the difference. A resilient mindset not only helps you navigate your physical limitations, but also empowers you to maintain motivation and sustain progress.

Embracing a positive outlook can transform an injury from a roadblock into an opportunity for growth, demonstrating that mental strength is just as vital as physical strength. I am working through this right now, as my recent MRI shows I have peroneal tendinitis in the arch of my right foot. There is also evidence of micro tears. For the past two years, I have been paying pickleball extensively, walking and doing yoga. I have been pain and injury free and thought I was over the hurdle of dealing with these types of injuries.

In the past, I allowed injuries to let me give up, so I know that I have to work hard to keep my focus and maintain a positive mindset. My last injury sent me on a downward spiral and left me 80 pounds heavier. I lost most of that weight and do not want to lose any momentum. I have been reminding myself daily, that this is just a bump in the road, not the end.

I have been doing a lot of reflection on moving through this setback. I focused on finding ways to use resilience. With that in mind, I needed a simplistic definition of what resilience is and how I could use it. I crafted the following plan to maintain motivation and mental strength, as I move toward recovery. What follows is my thought process and the plan I crafted to use moving forward.

What is Resiliency

Resilience is the ability to adapt and recover from setbacks, and it can be applied to both weight loss and overcoming injury.  Resilience is the ability to manage stress in effective ways. It’s not a choice of attitude, or something you’re born with. Rather, it is skills that can be developed by repeating specific behaviors.

This understanding led me to reflect on what skills I could employ as I navigate through my injury downtime.

Using Resilience When Overcoming Injury

With that definition in mind, what resilience skills could I employ when overcoming an injury, while trying to lose weight? Here are a few examples: 

  • Practice self-compassion: Be kind to yourself and prioritize mental and emotional well-being 
  • Shift your perspective: Remind yourself that the injury is temporary. 
  • Continue to move your body: Modify movements to continue moving your body in any way that you can 
  • Follow through with a rehabilitation program: Put in the work to build strength 
  • Maintain a positive attitude: Focusing on the progress you’re making, not just the end goal

With these skills in mind, I made a list of specific actions I would take. I then narrowed it down to those I felt most reflect my personal struggle.

My Resiliency Action Plan

For each of the skills, I developed a specific action. My recovery time is 4-6 weeks and I will adjust this plan as necessary.

  • Practice self-compassion: I will recognize when I engage in negative self talk. I will notice and reframe those thoughts, thinking about what I would say to someone else who was in my shoes.
  • Shift your perspective: I will remind myself daily that this too shall pass. I will engage in reading and other activities I enjoy to pass the time.
  • Continue to move your body: I will pay careful attention to any pain I feel in my foot, as I engage in movement. I am able to continue with weight training routines, modifying anything that would involve that foot. I am able to take short and slow walks, skipping or modifying if I feel any pain during or after.
  • Follow through with a rehabilitation program: I will attend all PT sessions and follow up at home between appointments.
  • Maintain a positive attitude:  I will use the calendar to track my progress and celebrate milestones along the way.

In Conclusion

In conclusion, overcoming obstacles on your weight loss journey requires resilience and a positive mindset.

  • Setbacks are natural, so celebrate small victories and learn from challenges.
  • Stay flexible and adjust your goals as needed, and
  • Don’t hesitate to lean on your support system.

Remember, this journey is about more than just numbers; it’s about becoming a healthier, happier you. Keep pushing forward and embrace every step!

What strategies have you found most helpful in overcoming obstacles on your weight loss journey, and how did they change your perspective on setbacks? Please share in the comment section below, or send me an email at laurakump@reclaiminghealth.blog.

I Am Enough

“You are enough, just as you are. Each emotion you feel, everything in your life, everything you do or do not do… where you are and who you are right now is enough. It is perfect. You are perfect enough.” – Melanie Jade.

“The single most revolutionary thing you can do is recognize that you are enough.” – Carlos Andres Gomez.

This time of year always seems to put so much pressure on us all. Coming out of the holidays, where perhaps we ate and drank more than usual, we can be upset with ourselves for our lack of ability to control ourselves. Couple this with being inundated with commercials and advertisements for the new year and all its promise to change our ways and start anew. Deeply rooted in these promises are the premise that we are imperfect and in need of changing. The new year, new you machine has long been a multimillion dollar business that preys on our deepest insecurities. 

Gym memberships, diet pills, meal plans and quick fixes are so successful because we all want to believe that we can change ourselves into a better version. Sadly, come February we likely will confirm what we knew all along, we are incapable of reaching perfection. The gym trips will stop, the diet pills will go in the trash and we will settle in to the acceptance of yet another year of failed promises.

This year, I’d love to see us say no to this idea that we are not perfect. A few years back, my daughter gave me a coin and affirmation to remind me that I Am Enough. I have read it and reread it and really tried to internalize the message. I think I have finally reached a new year in which I am not striving to change myself. Amen!

The best advice I can give is that acceptance of yourself, AS YOU ARE, can and will lead you to a healthier space. There is nothing we need to change, fix or get rid of. Wherever we are in our journey is enough. Remember, I am not on a diet, nor looking to lose weight to be thinner, prettier or happier. I am trying to live a healthier lifestyle to be healthier and hopefully a longer and fuller life. 

Reminding ourselves daily that we are enough as we are is important work. The feelings of inadequacy are often deeply rooted in our being and our inner critic has been empowered for years. Taking back our power is the work to engage in during this new year. Reminding yourself daily, especially when self doubt creeps back in is your action plan. Every time you look in the mirror remind yourself that you are enough just as you are. Every time you feel the inner critic rear their ugly voice, remind yourself that you are enough.  Put a sign on your mirror, your closet, inside your front door and your refrigerator! Say it, breathe it, chant it and most importantly live it. Find others who will support you on this mission, for free. You are worthy and so am I. 

I truly believe in the power of positivity, though I cannot promise it to be the easiest road. It is not a quick fix, but it can be life changing. Let’s make a promise to ourselves this year to stay strong in our belief that we are enough, just as we are right now. We have nothing to change or fix. We are enough just as we are.

Have a healthy and happy New Year. I look forward to sharing your health journey in the coming months.