Change Our Thinking About Food

“I realized that the answer to the supposedly incredibly complicated question of what we should eat wasn’t so complicated after all, and in fact could be boiled down to just seven words: Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants.”

Michael Pollan, Food Rules An Eater’s Manual

Recently a friend and I went out for breakfast and had a long chat about food. Specifically, we talked about the impact diet rules had on our thoughts around eating. She spoke about not eating fruit or carbohydrates from years of doing keto diets. Many diets, like keto, have hard rules about what one can and cannot eat, or do. These rules are presented, much like the gospel, as the answer to all our problems. One of the most commonly known rules, no carbohydrates allowed, has shaped the eating habits of millions of people and not always in a good way.

I have another friend who did the Atkins diet for years, which according to her interpretation, mandated no carbohydrates ever. She ate iceberg lettuce (not much nutritional value) and roasted chicken breast every day for years. I asked why she couldn’t eat vegetables instead of this type of lettuce and she informed me that vegetables had “a lot of carbohydrates” and iceberg lettuce was “mainly water”, making it a better choice. I remember trying to talk some sense into her, but she would not be swayed. She ate very little food throughout the day, as it was hard to “find things that had no carbohydrates.” I watched as she got very thin and honestly, sickly looking. I watched as her hair starting falling out, likely from lack of nutrition. It was truly disturbing for me to watch and she wouldn’t listen to any of my pleas to reconsider. My friend is not alone in letting diet rules shape her thinking, causing unintended consequences on their health as a result. These types of hard rules are something I have an issue with, and believe are causing food misconceptions that can do more harm than good.

The diet industry has in large part been the driving force behind many of these misconceptions, through the unchecked offerings of quick fixes and holy grails to being thin. There is no one way to be healthy that works for every body, as every body is unique and has individual needs, especially if you have a medical condition. That said, I’d like to take a look at a few of the major “rules” most followed and offer an alternative option to think about.

No Carbohydrates

This is one of the most popular diet rules people follow to lose weight. I would steer clear of any rule, or diet, that is based on completely eliminating an entire food group. The main issue is that the body needs carbohydrates to function properly. They are our main energy source and in fact our brains get at least 20% of their energy from carbohydrates.

That said, not all carbohydrates are the same, meaning we can make healthier food choices in this category. Although refined carbs can be harmful when consumed in excess, whole-food sources of carbs are incredibly healthy. Therefore, the quality of carbohydrates we eat are more important than the quantity. Rather than elimination of this much needed food group, it is recommended that we reduce our intake of refined carbs (white bread, white flour pasta, cookies, soda) in the diet and replace them with complex carbohydrates such as whole grains, fruits, vegetables and legumes.

Good vs. Bad Foods

There are truly no bad foods, as all foods have something in them that our body can use for nutrition. Obviously there are healthier choices we can make, but labeling foods good and bad can have a huge impact on our mental health. If I go out to eat, I should not feel guilty if I eat a piece of bread, eat a potato or drink a glass of wine. Attaching moral labels to food consumption is just not healthy for anyone, as that can lead to feelings of guilt and shame about ourselves, based on what we eat.

I prefer here to think about progress, not perfection when making food selections. Instead of avoiding perceived bad foods, I focus on making healthier choices. If I want to eat something less healthy, like a piece of bread, I eat it in moderation. Depriving myself of it will only make me resentful and want it more. There is no guilt to be had in eating food, just make informed choices when planning your meals. Don’t try to eat perfectly 100% of the time. Rather, do your best to select healthier foods and know that occasionally you may eat something less healthy. If I look at my personal eating, I went from eating mostly take in, or restaurant food, to cooking 90% of my meals. I have zero guilt when I do go out to eat and I try to select healthier options, but if there is something I really want, I will order it without hesitation.

Eat Everything on Your Plate

I was raised to believe that not finishing everything on my plate was bad. I was told that there were people starving in the world, who would be more thankful for the food and that not eating all of mine was wasteful. I am sure many of you can relate to that thinking. My parents were not bad people, that was just the thinking at the time, but we know better now. There is no reason to eat more than you need to eat to feel satisfied. Portions are mostly too big, especially in restaurants, even at home. Our body knows when it has had enough and we should listen to it. I have gotten much better at not forcing myself to “clean” my plate when eating.

When I eat, I have slowed down to give myself a chance to feel full. There is a delay in the body recognizing it has been fed, so slow down, take your time and I bet you will find you eat less. When plating food at home, I have significantly reduced the portions I initially serve. There is always food for seconds, if we are still hungry, so no need to pile it on the plate. When I dine out, I generally ask for a take home box when the food arrives. I put half of my food in the box before eating. I eat half the meal, pause, then if I am still hungry I eat more. If not, my box is packed and ready to go home.

Changing Our Thinking

Any food rule that is restrictive can do more harm than good. Restrictive rules seek to rule our choices with hard rules, such as – no carbs, can’t have fruit or elimination of entire food group. To overcome these rules, we need to start by looking at our own thinking and ask, “What rules am I living by?”, “What role does that have on how I feel about myself?” and “How does that shape my food selection?” Consider writing these thoughts down to help you really think about the impact this thinking has had on you.

To truly break free from these rules, one needs to create a healthier relationship with food. These past four weeks, I have been really examining my own thinking around eating. As I have said in this blog, I have been eating primarily whole food, plant based items to see if my gut health improves. That said, when I first shifted, I was overly focused on tracking my macronutrient intake. I engaged in the above reflection around my food thinking and came to realize, I had some food misconceptions deeply ingrained in my thought process. It is definitely a work in progress, but I am studying the research and trying to educate myself as a means to make healthier choices.

If you connected to something in this blog, please do reach out. I love the messages I get about your journeys. It’s always great to hear your thoughts and ideas and to know I am not alone on this path. You can reach me on by email at laurakump@reclaiminghealthblog.com, on Instagram or in the comment section below.

Cooking to Nourish Your Mind, Body & Soul

“No one who cooks, cooks alone. Even at her most solitary, a cook in the kitchen is surrounded by generations of cooks past, the advice and menus of cooks present, the wisdom of cookbook writers.

Laurie Colwin

The weekend after my high school graduation, I took my first apartment. At 18 years old, I wasn’t much of a cook and hadn’t had much appreciation for the meals my grandmother, or mother, had made. Fast food and cake were my main selections for meals. 

Newly married at 21, I had a small repertoire of recipes I could cook. It wasn’t extensive, but I could whip up some meat and potatoes and a bag of frozen vegetables. Pizza and baked ziti were my main selections for meals.

As a new mother at 25, I wanted to feed my infant son fresh foods, not foods in jars, as I was afraid of what might also be in them. I purchased my first crockpot and many fresh vegetables from the supermarket. I pureed these cooked vegetables and fruits and made homemade food for my son. Too tired to cook; pizza, baked ziti and tuna casserole were my main selections for meals.

Following the death of my beloved grandmother at 28, I took over hosting of all family holidays. I began developing the art of cooking the holiday meal from scratch. This was my gift of love to my family and helped keep family traditions alive. I really enjoyed doing it, however, too tired from raising three children and working full time, calling out for dinner was my main selection for meals.

When my mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, I began cooking to keep my mind off watching her slowing leave us. Chopping up vegetables and onions became a form of therapy for me. Eating the delicious foods borne from following recipes and cooking shows, coupled with a nice bottle of wine became my main selection for meals.

Cooking is an art form and labor of love, but it is also one of the best things you can do for your health and well being. Cooking gives you control over what you are putting into your body, as you select and control the ingredients used. It is far healthier than eating fast food, or restaurant food regularly. The amount of fat and sodium consumed when eating out regularly cannot be denied. Cooking can be time consuming, especially at first, but I realized through my journey that it is truly worth the effort. 

Cooking has been so therapeutic for me and I cannot understate the joy it has provided as well. When journeying through the difficult walk of Alzheimer’s disease, it provided me great comfort, like a warm blanket. The cutting board, the chopping, the art of preparing a wholesome meal all brought calmness to my mind. Preparing family recipes kept me connected to family traditions and memories. It felt as if my grandmothers, mother and aunts were by my side guiding me along. Of course, there also was no denying the positive impact cooking had on my nutrition and health. Blood tests showed the improvement, as did my waist size and fitness level.

Cooking is love of self and family and likely the best gift you can give to yourself and them. It can be hard to do, especially when working full time, believe me I have been there. This is not a call to be tied to your stove, rather it is a call to see the value found in the art of cooking. With that in mind, here are some of the simple actions I took when starting out that helped me stick to it.

  • Plan Realistically – It’s easy to get overwhelmed, so plan out what you will cook and don’t take on too much at first. List meals you will prepare for breakfast, lunch and dinner. I use a calendar template to list the meals I will have for each day and include where to find the recipe. If you do this on your computer, you can make a live link to the recipe. You can also, reuse weekly plans as you go and create a rotation.
  • Plan for Shopping – As I pick meals, I list the ingredients I will need to shop for. I list items by the aisle they are found in, ex., Produce, Frozen, etc. This makes shopping quicker. I only buy what I need to reduce costs and waste, ex. if I need one sweet potato that’s what I buy, not the whole bag.
  • Plan for Leftovers – As I pick meals, I think about using leftovers for lunch and/or dinners. Example, a vegetable lasagna tray can be used for at least two dinners, or lunch and an additional dinner. So planning out the week, I take that into account. This cuts down on over buying and waste of food. It also removes cooking from several nights.
  • Recipe Selection – Choose recipes that don’t have a ton of ingredients. Less is often more when cooking. Focus on clean, healthy ingredients and flavors you love. There are so many offerings online and on Instagram. Find a cook you love and peruse their offerings.
  • Meal Prep – I don’t like spending a whole day cooking on my weekends, never did. There is value in prepping though to save time throughout the week. Breakfast is the easiest meal to prep for the week. If you have having overnight oatmeal, it’s very easy to make several containers at once and put them in the refrigerator, eliminating any need to cook in the morning. This week, I baked a quick oatmeal, buckwheat, hemp and quinoa recipe that was cut into eight slices for eight breakfast grabs. Other items I like to prep for are granola options for over acaci bowls, or cashew yogurt. Finally, salad dressing options are made to last a few days. 
  • Vegetables – I prefer fresh, but have started using frozen organic options for some recipes. This cuts down on the chopping time needed to prepare for recipes. Frozen vegetables and fruits have great nutritional value and can lessen the time needed to get a recipe on the stove.
  • Whole Food Plant Based – these recipes take less time to prepare than most meat recipes and are great options for a work night. I made a delicious red lentil, walnut and mushroom bolognese sauce last night that was cooked and on the table in just under 60 minutes. These meals are also easier to digest in the evening when you may head to bed earlier.
  • Prepare Before Starting – I pull out and line up all ingredients I will need prior to beginning a cooking session. It takes a few extra minutes up front, but is well worth the time. I even measure out the spices and have them ready to just put into the pan. All of this makes following a recipe and cooking so much easier! I promise.
  • Clean Up as You Go – I clean and put things away as I go, making it so much easier when we are done eating to clean up. Leaving everything in the sink and out, as my husband would do, makes it feel overwhelming and messy. Once something is on the stove simmering, or in the oven, it is the perfect time to clean up and put things away. This often leaves me with only dinner dishes to rinse and put in the dishwasher when we are finished eating.
  • Start Small – If you are new cooking, or haven’t cooked in awhile, start small. Commit to cooking one meal a day for the first week. This will keep you from feeling overwhelmed. You can add other meals as you go, when you feel ready.

I hope you found something helpful in these suggestions. Go easy and give yourself grace to find what works for you. The most important thing, is that I hope you cook. 

We talked about doing something new to spark motivation in last week’s post. Perhaps cooking can be that something new. I truly hope it is. If you are already in love with cooking, please share some ideas with me through email at laurakump@reclaiminghealth.blog , Instagram @reclaiminghealthblog or in the comment section below. 

Try Something New

“I always did something I was a little not ready to do. I think that’s how you grow. When there’s that moment of ‘Wow, I’m not really sure I can do this,’ and you push through those moments, that’s when you have a breakthrough. Sometimes that’s a sign that something really good is about to happen. You’re about to grow and learn a lot about yourself” -Marissa Mayer

As we enter February, we may have lost some of our mojo when it comes to work out promises made at the New Year. The initial excitement about getting into shape may now be starting to wane. I know the crowds at the gym here have started to diminish greatly, as happens every year. It’s the same cycle every year and one that gets even the most well intentioned of us, myself included. This year however, I made a promise to myself that I would not give up on my journey during these cold winter days. This year, I made a promise to myself that I would not have to start over from scratch come spring.

Sometimes when motivation starts to dwindle, trying something new can be just the spark you need to keep going. Switching things up and adding some variety to your routines can be the ticket you to hold on. For me, I have added in very short runs to my week and started a WFPB (whole food, plant based) nutrition course. Both have served to peak my need to learn and grow and push through these moments of wanting to nest in my home under a blanket.

I was not planning to add a plant based certificate to my coursework, but have been struggling with some gut health issues recently. After researching and truly reflecting on it, I felt the time was right to explore my long standing difficulties with getting enough fiber in my diet without supplementation. I have a long history of not loving vegetables and irrational thinking about the sugar found in fruit. I decided it was time to dive deeply into the world of plant based nutrition and felt WFPB was the best place to start. I was definitely not sure I would be able to survive, much less thrive, if I only ate whole plant based foods.

This is my second week of eating WFPB and I must admit that I actually do feel better. I had some diverticulitis symptoms and was beginning to worry, but this week I haven’t felt the nagging pain on my left side following eating. It’s far too soon to tell the true impact, but I am most definitely motivated to keep going. I am excited to continue to learn and try new foods and track my growth in the process.

If you are feeling stuck and losing motivation to eat healthy, workout or do any of the things you loved, consider trying something new and see if it reignites your passion. Is there something you’ve been wanting to do, but haven’t? It can be anything, not just health related items. Have you always wanted to learn to crochet?, Wanted to learn about plant based cooking? Whatever it is, do it! It could be just what you need to climb out of the winter freeze and move into the spring thaw with stronger motivation. 

In my case, I knew my intake of vegetables and fruits was weak. I started thinking about it and researching it. I then took the following steps:

  • Learn – It’s important to engage in the process of learning new information. It is great for your brain and can build excitement around the process, as well as give you the tools you need to try it.
  • Add On – What are you already doing that this new learning will improve? I love to cook and was excited to add new recipes, ingredients and meals to my repertoire. As a health coach, I knew I would interact with clients who have different preferences for their foods and wanted to build a better knowledge around this topic.
  • Connect – Find others who share your passion. One of the blessings of social media is that you can find your tribe as you learn and grow. I found a group of WFPB people who have offered support and ideas as I learn. 
  • Push Through – Decide to do it and really try to stick to it. Focus on progress not perfection and do what you feel you can commit to right now. In my case, I went cold turkey, but that is because I am not working full time. If I was still working, I would have likely committed to add one WFPB meal to each day. 

Whatever you decide to do, give yourself grace. The goal is to spark motivation, not overwhelm yourself. Remember, it’s the small steps that add up to big change, but that won’t happen if we get overwhelmed. For example, if you want to learn to crochet, don’t set out to make an afghan right from the start. It’s likely best to start with making one chain of stitches. Once you have that down, move to making one full square block. Finally, over time you will move to making an afghan blanket. Using these small steps over time, you will hold on to your motivation as you celebrate those successful moments along the way.

I’m excited to hear about your new passions and how they helped motivate you to keep moving forward. Please do reach out to share them with me at laurakump@reclaiminghealth.blog , on Instagram @reclaiminghealthblog , or in the comment section below.